Who do you listen to?

Your environmental mix can govern your state of mind to a significant level. For example, if you habitually place yourself within groups of people who have a tendency to negatively criticise every new portion of their life experience, this will normalise as “expected behaviour” and soon you will start to do that too, because it is expected and indeed, valued. But is there really value in it? Yes, in some cases there is. The competitive approach to refinement in product development will benefit considerably from negative feedback. This is obvious to most of us.

But how about “real life” — the bit we’re supposed to live, casually, carelessly and enjoyably? Is there room for negative feedback and criticism there? I would say no. I would be wrong, if I let you think that that answer means that there should be a 100% lack of criticism and negative feedback, but rather, I would promote the notion that criticism is certainly not of value in our “normal” life as we think it is, and in its place, we should nurture a tendency to accept things the way they are without immediately and thoughtlessly striving to modify it or “improve” it.

For most of the time, we aren’t really criticising to improve for the betterment of what it actually is or could be, but rather, the position it places us in and the impression that we give to our fellow people as someone who feels it their duty to criticise. Increasingly, that person cannot accept the “what is”, the “now” and the “reality” without substituting it with a fictional future other version of reality every single time.


Success In Seven Parts pilot on youtube — spread it around!

Success In Seven Parts — the blog

This is the launch post of the “Success In Seven Parts” blog. It accompanies my “Success In Seven Parts” series of motivational speaking talks. Are you interested in the process of achievement? The “Success In Seven Parts” pilot is up on youtube now: